Getting back into the dating arena after divorce or a painful separation can be difficult for both woman and man. Many fear that they just won't remember what to say or do. Being part of a secure, loving partnership and being a parent for an extended period of time is ideal. However, when this connection is severed one is left with gaping wounds and alarming levels of solitude. The mere thought of even having physical contact be it holding hand or kissing can have one very apprehensive.